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'Time out' from the wife?

Started by: doclatino (259) 

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?
Is it good to have 'space' from the other half? How about 'separate holidays'

I wouldn't mind.....(haven't suggested it though!) She'd probably want to know why I would want to go on my own.....'Is there anything wrong'....'Don't you want my company' etc.
Just wondered if anyone does this...
Some couples seem so 'welded' together, they resemble Tweddle dee and Tweedle Dum...

Started: 3rd Apr 2007 at 19:57

Posted by: emma penn (488) 

myself and my husband have different holidays with friends and together its not because we want to get up to anything it just keeps our lives more interesting and gives us something to talk about

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 20:08

Posted by: disco_diva (inactive)

Seperate beds. Key to a happy partnership!

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 20:50

Posted by: doclatino (259) 

...Separate Bedrooms now DD. When youv'e been married 50 years - the snoring - pulling off the bedclothes - keep getting up for a pee - fartin' - one cold, the other hot - sittin' bolt upright in bed, shoutin' you've seen a ghost - can't sleep, so, you put on your earphones to listen to the radio, and the 'hissing' wakes up the other one. I want to read, so I put on the spot. Then it's 'Put the light off - It's keeping me awake...

It's nice and peaceful for both of us now.
Thing is though, if I oversleep, she looks in to see if I'm still alive!

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 21:17

Posted by: danni (inactive)

separate houses even better

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 21:23

Posted by: emma penn (488) 

SEPARATE COUNTRIES IS EVEN BETTER

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 21:29

Posted by: tommy (254) 

better still?...seperate planets

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 21:37

Posted by: rnicky74 (1295) 

I go away with other family members or with the girls for a few days but have hls with the old man too. He also goes on lads hols. we don't mind each other doing this. i draw the line at seperate beds though i would be too cold!!

Replied: 3rd Apr 2007 at 22:59

Posted by: aussie roy (2574) 

Yes Doc,absence does make the heart grow fonder. Apart from being in hospital,both of us,or when I've been away training for one job or another,in 44 years my wife have only been parted once and that was when I visited England in '89. It was only for three weeks but I still missed her.
There have been some unkind suggestions made on this thread,maybe in jest but for me it's together in everything.Of course I have my "time out" but it's only for two or three hours at a time and as for seperate beds,at this point in time it is out the question,besides, it would only confuse the dog.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 08:31

Posted by: harold (inactive)

Just because you have been stuck with same woman all your life Roy dont make it right.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 08:53

Posted by: empress (9667) 

My ex hubby n I used to socialise apart as well as together, also go away with pals as well as together....., but I'd shop for gifts to bring back ,he'd window shop for a bit of skirt lol. So we aren't together anymore.
New man and me, we been together just 4 years, he took a bit of getting used to as he doesn't like doing anything away from me.He likes fishing, so taught me to fish........(under duress) but I love it now.We rarely do a thing apart, occasionally he is away overnight working, or a few nights like last week he was in france, but he's never off the fone when he aint here.
Suppose it depends on why you want to go and would she enjoy it if she went with you? He's tried to persuade me to give golf a try..........NOT A CHANCE. So he aint been in ages.
I think abscence does make the heart grow fonder myself, also the peace n quiet when the other half aint there is nice hehehehe. Also its lovely when they come home , make us appreciate the other half I thinks.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 09:16

Posted by: andie9469 (255) 

i agree absence does make the heart grow fonder. it can be damn near heartbreaking. saying that there is nothing better than a weekend away with the girls. we always have a ball.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 11:10
Last edited by andie9469: 7th Apr 2007 at 09:53:20

Posted by: hazmarcon (236)

It's not a case of heart growing fonder.
It's having your own space for a few days.
My better half goes fishing a couple of
times a year for about three or four days.
Chill out, relax, unwind, heaven.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 15:50

Posted by: danni (inactive)

I didnt think I was being unkind it was just my opinion. My ex is better in a separate house

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 17:20

Posted by: xxstuartxx (5799)

Harold
Just because you have been stuck with same woman all your life Roy dont make it right
Isn't that just a downright stupid statement?

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 17:49

Posted by: harold (inactive)

Stuart
No it isnt are you in same boat.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 20:20

Posted by: poppy (437)

"Stuart
No it isnt are you in same boat."

Sounds like you are too and don't like it

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 20:51

Posted by: empress (9667) 

Have you been brave enough to mention it to her yet Doc?

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 22:01

Posted by: harold (inactive)

Well said Poppy.

"Stuart
No it isnt are you in same boat."

Sounds like you are too and don't like it

Folk dont realise that you can still be happily married but not madly in love and cant live on on your own for a few weeks with out getting lonely.

How will you feel if you missis kicks the bucket before you hand you are left on your own.

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 22:16

Posted by: emma penn (488) 

me and my husband are very much in love and happy we have been married for 5 years we enjoy spending time together but also away from each other just because we dont live in each others pockets doesn't mean we love each other any less than a couple that does

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 22:23

Posted by: xxstuartxx (5799)

Well said Poppy.

"Stuart
No it isnt are you in same boat."

Sounds like you are too and don't like it

Folk dont realise that you can still be happily married but not madly in love and cant live on on your own for a few weeks with out getting lonely.

How will you feel if you missis kicks the bucket before you hand you are left on your own.


Read it again Harold, only read it properly. What must it be like to get so confused, so easily

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 22:33

Posted by: doclatino (259) 

Emps

NO........

Replied: 4th Apr 2007 at 22:58

Posted by: empress (9667) 

hmmmmmm don't blame ya Doc, its a hanging offence you know.

Replied: 5th Apr 2007 at 01:06

Posted by: aussie roy (2574) 

Harold,we must be doing something right if as you say I'm "stuck" with the same woman all this time,44 years to be exact,it is devotion,love and understanding that has been the "glue" that has kept us together. There have been bumps in our life but that makes it all the more interesting and most problems are resolved together.

Replied: 6th Apr 2007 at 03:09

Posted by: harold (inactive)

I not knocking it Roy that you have been with same woman all that time Ive had mine for 30 years now but before I did get lumbered I played the field untill I was 29 years of age.
Where what you was saying it was first woman that you saw and she said yes, but thats how it used to be in them days.

Replied: 6th Apr 2007 at 09:02

Posted by: empress (9667) 

Harold 'them days' were best, nowadays a lot of folk lack commitment, I was born in the wrong era.

Doc....forget a weekend away alone. you'd have to pay the price.......at least 12 months of silent dinners hehehehe

Replied: 7th Apr 2007 at 23:26
Last edited by empress: 7th Apr 2007 at 23:36:53

Posted by: seamonkey (inactive)

I think to spend time away from each other is good, I couldnt bear to be with someone 24 hours a day. Iv always had my own friends and interests.

Replied: 7th Apr 2007 at 23:35

Posted by: fozzy (75)

I don't think it does any harm to spend time away from your partner. I recently spent a week away from mine.

Replied: 10th Apr 2007 at 16:03

Posted by: billy (26053) 

for better for worse.....ive been b****y lucky with the one i picked, and yes there were choices.
we have been together forever. a day out of her life, or visa versa, and theres a total vacuum.
all together now..ahhhhh
but its the truth and i aint to ashamed to say it.i am blessed.i know quite a few of you guys deep down are in the same boat as myself, just admit it.

Replied: 10th Apr 2007 at 16:10

 

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