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Started by: dark horse (295) 

Neverstill you have gone the other way because you were not brought up with loving discipline. You were abused. No parent has the right to break a child's nose and the police today would not let them get away with it, thank goodness. I would not slap anyones child but if I should have the right to frogmarch em to their parent and expect that parent to administer a slap if it was serious enough to warrant it. All the poeple on here talking about corporal punishment appear to me to have been brought up with it as a reasonable tool to instill discipline. Mild 'fear' draws good boundaries. A short sharp smack AFTER being told what it is for and why it needs to be done teaches right from wrong as well as respect for others and establishes boundaries. Any parent who wades in smacking or hitting without a discussion with the child first is out of control and therefore only venting their own temper. My kids are 29 and 24. I always used to explain my position first, get their version of events and make a decision as to what punishment might be better, with a smack as a last resort. Only exception to the rule was if they was aving a tantrum, in which case a bit of a smack on the hand or leg usually brought them back to earth. The discussion then took place. They detested the 'discussions' more than anything and these formed the biggest type of discipline. These days, children are expected to know what discipline means without having first been taught it. They are not taught manners or anything. Manys the time I have been shoved aside by some child dashing here or there or teens walking straight in front of you without pausing to let you past and rarely do you get a pardon or sorry, or could I please pass you. I sometimes refuse to move and ask for the magic 'password'. Parents with these kids look at me and think I am barmy. My kids were brought up with good manners and as adults I have seen from a distance when they have used them - give a seat up for an older person, help a pregnant lady with her shopping, and said please, thank you and excuse me to folk. I may not have been parent of the year, and neither of my kids went to Uni or earn a bomb, but I like to think they are decent as people, so I don't think I did the worst job in the world.

Replied: 9th Sep 2006 at 17:47

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