General   (General discussion, talk about anything.)

one of my staff at work is in her sixties and her mum and dad have turned 90. They are both very frail but have strong sound minds which has made their daughter's life very difficult. She lost her own hubby after 33 years together last year and is still dealing with her grief. They are very unsympathetic and as old people can be, selfish. They have systematically shot down every attempt she has made to get them help cos of their fierce independence. She has no life of her own. Finally, this week it has come to a head. Dad cannot now walk and is almost blind and very deaf. Mum is very very frail and wobbly. They have finally conceded they need home help but she is having to battle to get it as they have scuppered it so many times. The cost of getting all the services to them so they can stay in their own home is eating into her own pension and savings as well as theirs and despite their frailness could still live for years. Meantime the stress on her health is very apparent and getting worse. It is a horrible thing to have to put a parent in a home but sometimes the alternatives are worse. I can see their daughter being found dead alone in her own home and them still trucking on. She has no other family for support.